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5 Things Your Guests Won’t Tell You

A friend of mine wrote this article and has let me share it with you. Alan Berg is one of our wedding industry leading speakers and a good man to listen to.


1. Your guests won’t thank you for making your mom, sister, best friend or maid of honor work on your wedding day. They’re not wedding planners; they’re your closest family and friends. Let them mingle, dance and enjoy the day.

2. Your guests won’t thank you for making them wait while you take pictures. Sure, they’ll eat and drink, but if it takes too long, they’ll start wondering where you are. They were invited to celebrate with you.

3. Your guests won’t tell you that you put way too many things on your wedding registry. Make it easy for them to buy you the things that you really want. It’s hard for guests to know which things you really want (like a beautiful honeymoon, fire pit or down payment on a house), when there are so many items on there. Give them the option to contribute dollars towards your registry so you can choose how to use it. Also, understand that a gift should not be required. You invited them to share your wedding day, not to necessarily have to pay for the privilege. If they want to give a gift, make it easy.


4. Your guests want to see and hear your ceremony. Ask them to stay in their seats so everyone else can see. If you’ve hired a professional photographer and videographer (real, experienced professionals), and you share the photos with them (easy enough to do with online proofing these days), they’ll all be able to see and hear you taking your vows. Have someone ask everyone to turn off his or her ringers as well. You don’t want to hear a phone ringing on your wedding video. Everyone has a camera phone, but that doesn’t make him or her a professional. Don’t let them get in the way. You’re investing good money in professional photos.


5. Your guests won’t thank you for hiring the cheapest wedding vendors. They don’t care how much you paid; they only care about what they see and experience. An iPod is not a DJ. Your uncle is not a professional videographer and won’t know where to stand, to not be in everyone’s way. That Craig’s List vendor you hired is cheap for a reason. Don’t hire cheap. Hire the best value. Follow your priorities and invest in them. You won’t be happy when the photos aren’t what you wanted or the dance floor is empty.


You know what it’s like to be a guest at a wedding, so remember that when making your choices. If it’s summer time, make sure there’s shade for your outdoor ceremony and make sure there’s air conditioning. Don’t just pray that it won’t rain, or won’t be 110 degrees. Have a real plan for it. Put yourself in the shoes of your 100 or more guests and have them raving to you about how great everything was. You don’t always get kudos for doing it right, but you almost always lose points for doing it wrong. I wish you, and your guests, a very happy wedding.


Alan Berg

• author • business consultant • professional speaker • small business marketing guru • O 732.422.6362 • C 732.289.4842 • Intl. 001 732 422 6362

Author of “If your website was an employee, would you fire it?” , “Don’t Paint the House!” and the new book “Your Attitude for Success”

· “North America’s Leading Expert on the Business of Weddings & Events”

· March 2013 Top 100 Small Business Experts to Follow on Twitter

· Top 1% most viewed LinkedIn profiles in 2012

“You’re probably the only speaker I can listen to without once looking at my watch.” – Aldo Ryan, Sound Explosion DJs, Brooklyn, NY

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Winter Wedding Bouquets

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The bouquet is a memorable part of the wedding for a couple of different reasons.  For starters, it’s a part of the bride’s look, it matches her gown, her bridesmaids and the whole theme of the wedding. Secondly, the bouquet toss is a major tradition of every wedding. The young female guests look forward to the toss every wedding. For the videos we create, it’s a great scene and time to capture a great moment. It stands out as a token moment, and the bouquet is at the center of it all.  The look of the bouquet varies season to season, and as we approach the winter, bouquets start to take a different look.


Here are a few winter bridal bouquets to consider for your wedding if it takes place in December, January, or February. These pictures and arrangements are gathered from Martha Stewart Weddings.


Glistening Handful: Pinecones tipped in glitter glow like a halo around dusky blooms of mauve roses and miniature paperwhites. The delicate flowers soften the rustic sensibility of the pinecones, and accentuate the illusion of floating light.


Icy Whites:Above a shimmering vintage jacquard ribbon are snowy clusters of

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hyacinths and Cattleya orchids. And sprinkled throughout, like glistening frozen crystals, are silver ribbon clasps attached to wire stems.


Velvet Bouquet: To make an autumn or winter bouquet even more lush, include cockscomb — the deep-pink ruffle-edged


flower here — and then highlight its rich texture with a thick velvet ribbon wrap. This example contains calla lilies, sweet pea, and cockscomb in shades of pink. This is a perfect option for February.


The bouquet is filmed plenty of times throughout the course of a wedding video.  A truly wonderful wedding bouquet with beautiful flowers and bright arrangements stands out and reminds you of how great your wedding celebration was. Take time to put something together you will truly enjoy.

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